Self Regulation Helping Shy, Hyper, Anxious Or Fearful Dogs To A Better Life #219 #podcast

As I sit here reflecting on my journey with my shy, hyper, anxious, and fearful dog, I can’t help but feel a sense of accomplishment and pride. The road hasn’t always been easy, but through the power of self-regulation, my furry companion has transformed his life for the better. In this blog post, I invite you to join me as I share my experiences and insights on how self-regulation can be a game-changer for our beloved dogs. So, without further ado, let’s dive into episode #219 of the podcast “Self Regulation: Helping Shy, Hyper, Anxious or Fearful Dogs to a Better Life”.

Self Regulation: Helping Shy, Hyper, Anxious Or Fearful Dogs To A Better Life


As a dog owner, it is essential to understand various aspects of canine behavior, especially when dealing with shy, hyper, anxious, or fearful dogs. In this article, I will provide valuable insights into a 10-step self-regulation strategy for dysregulated dogs. We will discover the concept of habituation and non-reactivity in dogs, as well as the importance of canine self-regulation. Additionally, we will debunk misconceptions about inhibited biting and aggression. Moreover, we will explore human self-regulation and emotional coping mechanisms. So, let’s delve into the world of dog psychology!

Understanding Canine Self-Regulation

Canine self-regulation refers to a dog’s ability to manage their emotions and behaviors in different situations. Just like humans, dogs experience a range of emotions, and it is crucial for them to regulate these emotions effectively. By helping our dogs develop self-regulation skills, we can enhance their overall well-being and reduce stress-induced behaviors.

Dysregulation in Dogs

Dysregulation in dogs and puppies is a normal part of their development. When faced with new experiences or challenging situations, dogs may exhibit dysregulated behaviors such as excessive barking, growling, or even aggression. It is important to understand that dysregulation is different from reactivity. Reactivity typically involves a heightened response to a specific trigger, while dysregulation refers to a general difficulty in managing emotions.

Examples of Dog Dysregulation Behavior

  1. Excessive barking
  2. Growling or snarling without apparent cause
  3. Restless pacing or inability to settle
  4. Overwhelming excitement or hyperactivity
  5. Freezing or shutting down in fear-inducing situations

Transitioning from Co-Regulation to Self-Regulation

To help your dysregulated dog, it is essential to transition them from co-regulation to self-regulation. Co-regulation refers to the dog relying on their owner for emotional support and guidance. By teaching your dog self-regulation skills, they will gain more independence and confidence in handling challenging situations.

A 10-Step Approach for Helping Your Dysregulated Dog

1. Nutrition

Ensure that your dog’s diet provides the necessary nutrients for optimal health. A balanced diet plays a significant role in promoting emotional well-being in dogs.

2. Exercise

Regular exercise is crucial for a dog’s mental and physical well-being. Engaging in activities such as walks, play sessions, and interactive games can help release pent-up energy and reduce anxiety.

3. Avoid Chemicals

Be mindful of the chemicals present in your dog’s environment. Certain cleaning products, pesticides, and even certain plants can have adverse effects on your dog’s behavior. Opt for natural alternatives whenever possible.

4. Relaxation Training

Teach your dog relaxation techniques such as “down-stays” or “mat training”. These exercises can help your dog learn to calm down and relax in various situations.

5. Choice-Based Training Games

Incorporate choice-based training games into your dog’s routine. These games provide mental stimulation and empower your dog to make decisions, enhancing their problem-solving skills.

6. Positive Reinforcement Training

Positive reinforcement training methods, such as clicker training, can be highly effective in teaching dogs new behaviors. Rewarding desired behaviors with treats or praise encourages your dog to repeat those behaviors.

7. Sleep and Alone Time

Ensure that your dog has a comfortable and quiet space for uninterrupted sleep and alone time. Adequate rest is crucial for their overall well-being.

8. Journaling and Recording Progress

Keep a journal of instances when your dog displays dysregulation. This will help you identify patterns and track your dog’s progress as you implement the self-regulation strategies.

9. Strategic Layered Training

Train your dog in strategic layers using choice-based games. By gradually building on previously learned behaviors, you can help your dog develop a strong foundation in self-regulation.

10. Seek Professional Support

Remember that seeking professional help and guidance is always a valuable option. Organizations such as Recallers and Home School the Dog provide additional resources and support for dog owners dealing with dysregulated behaviors.


Understanding and assisting dysregulated dogs is a significant responsibility for dog owners. By implementing the 10-step self-regulation strategy, you can help your shy, hyper, anxious, or fearful dog navigate their emotions and behaviors more effectively. Remember to focus on nutrition, exercise, relaxation training, choice-based games, and positive reinforcement. And never forget the importance of journaling and seeking professional support when needed. By investing time and effort into your dog’s well-being, you will create a better life for both you and your beloved four-legged companion.

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